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	<title>Comments on: Do You Know Who Your Friends Are? It&#8217;s Getting Harder to Tell</title>
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	<description>Get ready. Hunt smart. Move up.</description>
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		<title>By: Glenn</title>
		<link>http://www.upmo.com/blog/will-you-be-my-114th-friend#comment-335</link>
		<dc:creator>Glenn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Mar 2009 00:51:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ah, the quality vs. quantity question.  Is it better to have a lot of friends you barely know or a few close ones?

This reminds me of 1 book I'd want if stranded on a deserted island, Barry Schwartz's _The Paradox of Choice:  Why More is Less_.

Schwartz has been seen in magazines like Men's Health where readers want to choose among so many gadgets, e.g., digital cameras.  He shows an example of 2 tastings where one could either sample 6 or 25 chocolates.  The one with 25 yielded less satisfaction because after a while, all started to taste the same.

It's interesting because the notion of careers is also covered in this book.  Careering was simpler in previous years because you'd choose one profession and stay with it until retirement.  Some say that was a boring way to live, especially if you discovered you were cut for something else later in life.  So now is a time to rejoice because we're more flexible to change and following passions.  However, people experience a lot more anxiety because the fear is, "What if I choose the wrong career out of so many?"</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ah, the quality vs. quantity question.  Is it better to have a lot of friends you barely know or a few close ones?</p>
<p>This reminds me of 1 book I&#8217;d want if stranded on a deserted island, Barry Schwartz&#8217;s _The Paradox of Choice:  Why More is Less_.</p>
<p>Schwartz has been seen in magazines like Men&#8217;s Health where readers want to choose among so many gadgets, e.g., digital cameras.  He shows an example of 2 tastings where one could either sample 6 or 25 chocolates.  The one with 25 yielded less satisfaction because after a while, all started to taste the same.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s interesting because the notion of careers is also covered in this book.  Careering was simpler in previous years because you&#8217;d choose one profession and stay with it until retirement.  Some say that was a boring way to live, especially if you discovered you were cut for something else later in life.  So now is a time to rejoice because we&#8217;re more flexible to change and following passions.  However, people experience a lot more anxiety because the fear is, &#8220;What if I choose the wrong career out of so many?&#8221;</p>
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		<title>By: Ted</title>
		<link>http://www.upmo.com/blog/will-you-be-my-114th-friend#comment-148</link>
		<dc:creator>Ted</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:48:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great article. I don't think face to face interactions have ever been more important. Getting friends or followers isn't the goal- it is the influence that you can have on these people. Gaining virtual relationships as just a number is pointless.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great article. I don&#8217;t think face to face interactions have ever been more important. Getting friends or followers isn&#8217;t the goal- it is the influence that you can have on these people. Gaining virtual relationships as just a number is pointless.</p>
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		<title>By: mike lally</title>
		<link>http://www.upmo.com/blog/will-you-be-my-114th-friend#comment-141</link>
		<dc:creator>mike lally</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Mar 2009 22:40:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Jessica. All these social networking sites are just tools. They exist to help us develop, renew and maintain connections. I don't feel there is an inherent obligation to fulfill every request for a favor. These sites help us build social capital. Every connection, every request is an investment you are making. There is ALWAYS some degree of "What's in it for me?" Some favors get fulfilled because they will help me or at least not hurt me. Others don't get fulfilled because there is risk to my reputation.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Jessica. All these social networking sites are just tools. They exist to help us develop, renew and maintain connections. I don&#8217;t feel there is an inherent obligation to fulfill every request for a favor. These sites help us build social capital. Every connection, every request is an investment you are making. There is ALWAYS some degree of &#8220;What&#8217;s in it for me?&#8221; Some favors get fulfilled because they will help me or at least not hurt me. Others don&#8217;t get fulfilled because there is risk to my reputation.</p>
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